Stop Should-ing yourself

When I started out as a coach, I had a friend tell me I’m pigeonholing myself for only coaching professions who want to switch careers. They suggested I should coach everyone, especially when I’m starting out.

The old me would agree, I shouldn’t be selective. I should try to help as many people as possible to get my feet wet.

But when my friend suggested that to me, I was not persuaded.

I wanted to be the person I wish I had when I was struggling with my career.

Oftentimes, these ‘shoulds’ steer us to a place that might not be for us. We make decisions based on other’s opinions, suggestions and ideas that make the most sense. These ‘shoulds’ do not always mean they are the right thing to do. It just means you logically think it could be the right path to take. But if it is the right path, why aren’t you saying ‘I want to’? What is preventing you from wanting to take this ‘right’ path?

When making decisions, listen to the language you use. Are you doing it because you should be or because you want to?

And if you are not saying you want to, try to understand why. That might help you with your decision.

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